Monday, February 9, 2009

Near Fatal!


I am blogging this story not because I'm proud of it or because I want you all to see my lack in parenting, but because I wish to make you more aware of leaving your younger children in a room alone with slightly older ones. I have a 5 month old, whom I almost never leave in the same room alone with my 2 year old. I mean lets be real, sometimes I will run into the next room to quickly grab something and return instantly. But the majority of the time I have made a habit of picking up the baby first and bringing him with me. Unfortunately this wasn't the case today. We were upstairs putting clothes away in Gabe's room. James was lying on the floor watching me and Gabe was highly involved in playing with his toys, when the phone rang. I went to pick the baby up, but then realized the phone was ringing downstairs and decided it would be easier to go alone and quickly return. I literally ran down stairs, grabbed the phone, started talking, and walking up the stairs. As I talked, I walked into Gabe's room and saw almost the exact scene I saw when I left, only Gabe was next to the baby talking to him. The baby seemed to be gagging on his spit up ( might I add this is a very normal incident for James. He is always gagging and always puking). But this time he continued to gag. As soon as Gabe saw me he ran and crawled up onto his bed. It was then I knew something else was going on. I also saw in Gabe's fingers a shiny coin. It was then that I realized the baby wasn't just gagging, he was choking. My nursing reflexes went into Action. As I acted I asked Gabe, "DID you put a coin in the Baby's mouth?" He answered, "Yes!" and giggled a little. I was furious. By then I had already swiped his mouth a few times and found nothing, but he continued to choke/gag. I thought maybe he didn't tell the truth. So this time I screamed, "DID YOU PUT MONEY IN THE BABY'S MOUTH?" and he again answered in the affirmative. By now I had the baby face down and was pounding on his back. Still nothing.. he continued to gag and choke. I gave his mouth a couple more swipes and his back a few more pounds and then there it was, a shiny dime.....To my relief he stopped choking and started breathing normally. I was so relieved, but furious at the same time. I couldn't believe that in just a matter of a minute his little brain could think of and carry out such a thing. I know he didn't do it to purposely hurt him, but I was still so mad at him and myself for leaving him alone with the baby. It was one of the scariest experiences of my LIFE. I felt so helpless, even though I knew exactly what to do. Gabe got a major timeout and a huge talk too. As the day went on I continued to re-live it in my mind, but with a different outcome. What if he had died? What would I have done? I honestly don't know what I would have done and I'm so grateful I don't have to know. This experience has made me realize how much I love my kids and can't imagine my life without them. I'm grateful God saw it fit to allow James to stay with us. I also realized that it doesn't take long for a 2 year old, or any child, to hurt another one intentionally or unintentionally. It is so important to watch our kids. I unfortunately had to learn the hard way. Please, Please, Please don't be as stupid as me, don't leave your kids alone in a room with other sibs or kids. That's all I have to say!




On a lighter note, aren't these roses beautiful? They are my early Valentines gift from Garrett. Thanks babies! I Love you

THE ANGEL


THE DEVIL IN DISGUISE

12 comments:

Brooke said...

How scary! I am so glad things turned out well! Try not to feel too badly though. Ru's daughter, Alexa, has almost choked to death a couple of times. We can only do as much as we can! I love you guys! Hope to see you soon! :)

The Laubs said...

That's so scary Jessica. I'm glad he's okay.

Rebecs said...

You poor thing! Choking has got to be one of the scariest experiences. I am so glad James is okay. And you should not blame yourself, I have left my kids together alone much longer than that, I guess I've just been lucky. Good reminder though. Beautiful roses!! If you ever get a minute maybe do a post reminding us all how to do the heimlich maneuver on infants and kids :)

Adair said...

Maggie has literally choked 3 times and fortunately has thrown it up every time before I had to do anything really drastic. They are the scariest seconds ever. I'm so happy he's OK. It has to be comforting knowing you know what to do. Maggie has inspired me to get cpr certified this month. Never a dull moment huh? Hope you are loving the extra space! We miss you around here.

Katie said...

That is so scary! I should share a couple of our close calls on my blog some time so you don't feel so bad...Like the time I gave Broox a chip and had to use my PALS skills or yesterday when I let my boys play outside alone and Broox got KICKED by my parent's horse! Too many close calls in this parenting thing. You are an awesome mom so don't let your head tell you anything else. Just chalk this up as a learning experience...because I am all knowing and wise. LOL.

Anonymous said...

Oh my gosh I would have freaked out.
How scary. Thank goodness you were able to get it out. This is a good reminder for me. I (just like you) never leave Emma alone with Joslyn. She loves her, sometimes a little too much.
Such sweet roses from your hubby.

The Gray Family said...

Jessica--

How scary! I am so glad James is okay. Would you mind sending me your mailing address to egray@stampinup.com. I am sending out Remington's bday announcements and wanted to send one to the boys.

Melissa said...

Holy crap!! That is sooo scary!! I'm glad James is ok. I love the captions you have by the pictures of the kids, lol!!

Anonymous said...

Sooo scary! My little man choked when he was probably 18 months old and I had to do the heimlich too, it was the worst day of my life. That day was when I felt the most grateful that I had chosen nursing as a profession! So glad he is okay.

Teresa said...

Panic!! So very glad you knew what to do and that sweet little James is alright. Big brothers!! Hmm...just can't say enough about them.:}

Cammie said...

That is awful! I'm glad everything worked out. Something similar happened to a friend, except her son was asleep, alone, with his old snuggle-blanket which had one unraveled string. He'd been sick and she went to check on him. The short unraveled string was wrapped around his neck! Her lesson: cut strings and throw old things away.
Kids are so stressful and so worth it.

Stephanie Ewell said...

That sounds like the scariest moment ever!! It was great to see u guys at Michael's, can't wait to do your hair:) Your boys are beautiful! <3steph